I was thinking about an ex earlier. Not in a nostalgic way, before anybody gets excited. I was wondering whether, if I met that exact same person for the first time today, I would fall as deeply for him as I did then. The probability seems fairly low because I'm not the same person who met him then. My reality has altered. The things I know have changed. My understanding of myself has changed. What I want has changed. What I notice has changed. What attracts me, what repels me, what I'll...

Before anyone starts preparing their simulation theory PowerPoint, that's not actually where I'm going with this. I can't prove we're not living in a simulation. I can't prove that this isn't all happening inside the imagination of some enormous cosmic octopus either, so I'm probably going to leave the actual nature of reality alone for today. Not that I'd discount any theory related to that anyway. I'm talking about the human bit. Because when you really start looking at how we live, an...

I've been thinking about labels. Not just relationship labels either. This has somehow gone much further than that. I've always tended to want to know what something is. If I care about someone, I want to know where I stand. If something feels important, I want to know what we're doing. I think, for a long time, I've mistaken the definition for the safety. If I know what something is, I know what I'm supposed to expect from it. Except then I realised something rather obvious that had somehow...