Divine feminine or feminism?

The other day, someone said something that lingered.

They’d watched a modern fairytale remake and questioned why the lead character, once soft and dreamy, now had to be hyper-independent and career-focused.

“Why is that always the goal?” they asked.

It made me pause.

Because I’ve felt it too — that quiet pressure in modern storytelling.

The shift from waiting for a prince to needing no one at all.

From being rescued to doing everything alone.

From damsel… to lone warrior.

Frozen didn’t end with a kiss.

It ended with sisters saving each other.

In the new Lilo & Stitch adaptation, Nani goes to college —

choosing independence over full-time caretaking.

It’s clear the narratives are changing.

And part of me celebrates that.

Because yes — we needed to break the old spell.

The idea that our value was in being chosen, pleasing, rescued.

That our softness made us small.

But lately, I’ve been wondering…

did we just trade one extreme for another?

I’ve always felt the divine feminine energy —

not as a concept, but as a quiet current.

She is soft, but never weak.

She doesn’t hustle for her worth.

She doesn’t need to be loud to be heard.

And yet… the way empowerment is often portrayed now

leans hard into masculine energy:

assertiveness, ambition, stoicism, self-reliance.

Strength becomes synonymous with how much we can carry —

alone.

So where’s the space for surrender?

Not the kind rooted in disempowerment —

but the sacred kind.

The kind that says:

"I don’t have to do this all alone to prove that I can."

The kind that softens without losing herself.

We say women can be anything —

but do we really celebrate those who choose to be supported?

To rest?

To lead through intuition rather than intensity?

We say “don’t shrink yourself.”

But is there space to curl inward and be held?

Is there space for choosing love over legacy?

Or softness over striving?

We all carry both feminine and masculine energies —

regardless of our gender, background, or how we were raised.

They’re not just roles we play — they’re rhythms within us.

The divine feminine lives in our intuition, creativity, receptivity, and emotional flow.

She’s the part of us that knows how to nurture, to surrender, to feel.

The divine masculine lives in our structure, direction, protection, and conscious action.

He’s the part that holds the container, makes decisions, takes aligned steps.

One without the other becomes imbalanced.

Too much feminine energy with no structure can feel ungrounded or chaotic.

Too much masculine energy with no softness can become controlling or emotionally detached.

So the goal isn’t to pick a side.

It’s to learn how to let them dance —

to know when to act and when to trust.

When to push forward and when to pull back.

When to hold space… and when to be held.

Because true empowerment doesn’t come from one energy winning.

It comes from integration — the remembering that we are both.

We are the flow and the form.

The whisper and the roar.

The moonlight and the fire.

Maybe this isn’t about choosing between feminism and the feminine.

Maybe it’s about remembering that freedom

was never meant to come with a single blueprint.

Yes, we don’t need saving.

But we also don’t need to save ourselves every single time.

We’re allowed to want support.

We’re allowed to change our minds.

We’re allowed to want both fire and flow —

and not be forced to pick a side.

What if strength isn’t always about standing alone?

What if softness doesn’t need a disclaimer?

And what if the most radical choice

isn’t being louder —

but being honest about what we truly need?

Where do you see yourself on this spectrum?

Do you feel free to soften when needed, to rise when called, and to ask for help without guilt?

These aren’t just questions about fairy tales — they’re invitations to explore the inner stories we carry, the expectations we’ve absorbed, and the truths we’re still uncovering.

The dance between feminine and masculine energies lives in all of us.

It’s not a battle — it’s a balance. And that balance begins within.

✨ What does true empowerment look like to you?

✨ Can softness and strength co-exist without needing to compete?

✨ Do you feel free to choose both — or are you still being asked to pick a side?